Touch – how my expression of being myself, my energy, affects others.
Consider these examples. Carl is like a bull in a china shop. Kevin has a sharp tongue, his words cut and bruise. When grandma gave you the stare, her look froze you in your tracks. Meg is known for her kindness, she could melt your heart with her smile. When Gwen’s walked into the room she radiated good will; some say she never had a bad thought about anyone. When my Da was in a bad mood it was like a thunderstorm in the house with lightening and all. John is a good man, never a bad word for anyone and always willing to lend a helping hand.
Within your language there are many expressions that show how energy is exchanged between two people.
A most significant movement occurs in growth — in the form of the development of voice – when someone becomes curious about his or her touch. When she holds the question, *“How does my touch affect others? *When you receive reactions that are uncomfortable or surprising; rather than blame, defend or attack, learn to ask the question: “How did my touch contribute to the situation?”
You are always touching people, always. Consider - when you step into relationship with someone you are responsible both for your touch and for understanding how this person receives touch.
Consider the question often asked: Am I responsible for other people’s feelings? Example: Jack could see that his touch was inviting Adele to fall in love with him. He also knows that Adele wants to find a mate. Jack does not want a mate, at least not now. But he loved the intimacy with Adele. After six months they reached a point where Adele wanted more, an agreement to long commitment and marriage. Jack said no – Adele was hurt and angry, but decided to wait for Jack to “come around.” She likes about his touch when they were together. Jack made it clear that he did not want to think about the future and wanted to be with Adele in the now. He too loved her touch, until it mixed with the future. So he agreed to continue, sensing things would not end well.
When you step into relationship with someone you are responsible both for your touch and for understanding how this person receives touch. It is not enough to warn people about your touch.
Touch is an expression of first three of the Nine Jewels of Human Relationships:
Jewel 1: Fundamental to the nature of human relationships are bold, warm, clear, flows of energy being exchanged. Pay attention to the flows (touch) in your relationships. What qualities do they express? Are they warm? Are they bold? Are they clear? Most flows are restricted in some manner.
Jewel 2: Fundamental to the nature of human relationships is nourishment. Everyone is nourished without exception. Consider how well you nourish others (touch). What is your theory about what nourishes people?
Jewel 3: Fundamental to the nature of human relationships is healing. Healing is a natural part of growth. There is no greater joy than to participate in helping (touch) someone to heal themselves.
Remember dear ones, if you remember nothing else — there is a joyous movement to touch. Deeply held within the nature of being human is that attraction to nourish one another. This happens through the energy shared between and among people. This is called joyous because of the deep satisfaction experienced by nourishing one another through touch. Now this joy, satisfaction through nourishing touch often happens spontaneously, proving it is simply part of your nature.
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