Wisdom suggests — do not try to convince someone who feels
alone that they are not alone. When someone feels alone treat this feeling with
deep respect, for they have lost connection.
There are many reasons people feel alone. One can become lost in his or her conscious mind, kept separate by the thoughts and beliefs. Shame, embarrassment, being hurt by others, can cause people to feel alone. Some people have stopped listening and learning in their lives and lose connection.
In addition, most people act alone or act as if they are separate — without feeling lonely. They have their tribe of 1 or 5 or 15 or 50 people — people with whom they experience connection. Maybe they also have a connection to Nature or maybe not.
Why do people feel lonely? Many people feel alone because they are not seen and they are not offered an invitation to express themselves. When no one is around to listen to people, at any age, this is an invitation to feel alone.
If you want to make a soul sing, invite a person to be herself. Now this could take a bit of doing because you might not be used to making this type of powerful invitation. You might need to practice. Also people might need to be invited many more times than just once, having had little experience expressing who they really are.
How are you at being yourself? What does it mean to be yourself? Consider - how is your VOICE at speaking the truth, speaking from the heart, listening, offering help, making invitations for others to speak? Since so many people do not have voice, how are you at letting their voice express itself through you? This is called speaking for others.
What about your GIFT? Now everyone has a special gift. It is a birthright! Have you discovered your gift and how well do you share it? Being yourself also means stepping off the fast-moving, concrete path of “being best” and competing to be best. Instead you step onto the path of the earth, soft and giving – the Path of Gifts where everyone has something to share.
Here is a little story. I will say the short version and please use your imagination to complete the story. Once there was a community of people who counted service. Yes, what they chose to count was the amount and quality of service everyone in the community offered. The more service you offered, the more respected you became in the community. Everything revolved around being of service. To them service means genuinely helping another person to grow, heal and flourish. From an early age children were encouraged to be of service to one another and to people in the community. This was an important part of being in the school. The community organized itself around the bringing the children forward as a form of service.
Now today in your community there are enough emotional resources for everyone to be seen. This is a big idea to ponder. With intention and hard work there are enough emotional resources to invite everyone to be themselves. This may involve rearranging individual and community priorities.
Wisdom says — don’t tell someone to be of service, simply offer the idea and let it take root.
As for today’s practice ponder the statement – “your community has enough emotional resources for everyone to be seen” and see where this leads you.
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